3 Relationship Mistakes Anxious People Make

Hello,

Everyone suffers from attachment wounds.

These are the wounds that result when we don’t get the exact kind of love we need as children.

We start to come to conclusions that we are unlovable as we are, that we need to earn love, and that something is fundamentally wrong with us.

Here are 3 relationship mistakes people with an anxious attachment make:

1️⃣ Not giving their partner space and clingy behavior

Anxiety and anxious attachment keep us from properly experiencing our own individuality. It keeps us dependent upon our partner for feeling secure, which translates to needy behavior.
An anxious person interprets distance as threatening, so forced closeness becomes a survival and regulation strategy.

2️⃣ Identification with the part of them that is afraid and clingy

There’s a part inside people with anxious attachment that needs attention: the young and vulnerable inner child that doesn’t feel safe.
People with anxious attachment let this part run them unconsciously. Presence with this part heals the system.
We can’t outsource our connection to ourselves. We can’t outsource our ability to regulate our nervous system.

3️⃣ Not being grounded and communicating in a needy way

Everyone has needs, but we don’t need to be run by the fear of not getting them met.
People with anxious attachment struggle to be grounded and connected to their needs, which turns into poor communication and emotional disconnection.
This needy behavior creates unhealthy distance instead of intimacy in relationships.

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From,

Lucas