This Sabotages Your Self-Esteem and Relationships...
- Lucas Segeren
- Feb 15
- 1 min read
You’ve heard about negative self-talk before…
But just hearing about it or reading it once doesn’t provide real and lasting change.
Humans have what is called an inner critic.
We have a part of our psyche that judges everything and everyone.
🍷 From seeing the glass half empty on the outside…
💔 To seeing ourselves broken on the inside.
The rock-bottom insight is this…
❤️ We beat ourselves up in order to feel loved.
If I behave like _____, I’ll get approval, love, and validation.
And whenever we don’t behave in ways that get us love, we beat ourselves up.
👶 This is what we learned in childhood:
“When I don’t get love, it’s because something is wrong with me.”
The habit of beating ourselves up is unconscious and recurring. This means we do it continuously and often don’t even recognize that we are doing it.
It’s easy to spot in others, but harder to spot in yourself.
If you’re interested in creating a better relationship with yourself, integrating your unconscious, and creating a more conscious life…
Then consider checking out my coaching.
