Lucas's Writings

You’ve heard about negative self-talk before… But just hearing about it or reading it once doesn’t provide real and lasting change. Humans have what is called an inner critic. We have a part of our psyche that judges everything and everyone. 🍷 From seeing the glass half empty on the outside… 💔 To seeing ourselves broken on the inside. The rock-bottom insight is this… ❤️ We beat ourselves up in order to feel loved. If I behave like _____, I’ll get approval, love, and validat

Hello, I used to think “self-love” was kind of a fluffy topic with no practical consequence. Fortunately, I learned I was completely wrong many years ago. The relationship you have with yourself is fundamental to the well-being of all relationships you have in your life. Some examples of relationships in your life are: people, money, time, food, emotions, thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, habits, and more. Here are 3 quick signs that you have trouble truly loving and accepting yo

Hello, Everyone suffers from attachment wounds. These are the wounds that result when we don’t get the exact kind of love we need as children. We start to come to conclusions that we are unlovable as we are, that we need to earn love, and that something is fundamentally wrong with us. Here are 3 relationship mistakes people with an anxious attachment  make: 1️⃣ Not giving their partner space and clingy behavior Anxiety and anxious attachment keep us from properly experiencing

Are you familiar with the sense of not being good enough or unworthy? This is a pervasive sense in our modern society, and it often goes under the radar. It's fueled by a combination of factors, which continuously sabotage us. The truth is that unworthiness is a story that we identify with and continuously tell ourselves. "I'm not good enough.” "I have to earn love.” "I'm behind in life.” "I have to be perfect.” The list goes on… These stories are rooted deeply in our minds,

Why are relationships so challenging? Why are there so many conflicts in relationships? A fundamental reason is this: underlying attachment wounds. Inside of everyone is a wounded inner child who just wants to feel loved and safe. We unconsciously seek this love through others, objects, and experiences. Meanwhile, we can only satisfy that inner child by fully meeting it and accepting it. No one can do this for us. We want the world to love the parts of us that we can't love.

What would happen if you just let go of control right here, right now? Our control isn't as real as we experience it to be. When we look at our experience through mindfulness meditation, we can see some interesting deceptions that are happening at a subtle level. Who is this self that has control? What exactly is doing the controlling? What is control made of? Where is control located? We usually experience ourselves as a separate individual who has a will, but this is an ill